Ever since I can remember, my father and I never really had a relationship. We had more of a toxic acquaintance. When mom died he suddenly decided he wanted to have a relationship with me. I was 56 years old. Talking to him is like talking to a stranger only worse because it's so incredibly awkward and uncomfortable.
I've been sick for several weeks and he has not helped at all with his behavior towards me. My parents were verbally and emotionally abusive to me my entire life. That hasn't stopped with him. The only thing that's changed is my willingness to tolerate it. Since I have been speaking up more for myself he has been getting very angry and he either doesn't respond at all or makes nasty remarks. Ok. That's what we're doing. Well, on Tuesday there was a shift when he started verbally attacking a FB friend of mine on one of my posts. She's an IRL friend as well. I ended up deleting the post. I sat there for a bit and finally decided to block him on FB. Then I got an email from him telling me to grow up. I told him I was upset because he attacked my FB friend and I don't do those things on his page. I also told him when he's ready to be nice to me to let me know. In a separate email he tells me I have been saying whatever I want to him and expecting him to take it and that it stops today. I decided not to respond to that email. I slept on it and yesterday I decided to block him in my email. I am still reachable by phone if he leaves a voicemail. Depending on that voicemail, his number may get blocked too.
I'm sick and trying to heal so I can return to work and all he has to offer is more grief and stress. He's p*ssed off because I have set a boundary and won't let him talk to me however he wants anymore. He is unwilling to listen when I try to express myself and tell him how I feel and unwilling to discuss anything. He just gets mad and makes nasty remarks and blames me.
So as of now I am setting up more boundaries. Not just for him but for anyone who mistreats me in any way anymore. I understand that some things are acceptable to tolerate but some things are not. I am not willing to tolerate being abused anymore by anyone. I will turn and walk away and cut off contact and communication if that's what I have to do to protect my own peace and sanity.
The world has given me enough on my plate to deal with. I do not need the toxic BS of others to completely destroy me. I shouldn't have to allow that in my life and I'm not about to.